Just finished reading ‘Look Me in the Eye – my life with aspergers’ by John Elder Robison. It is a totally fascinating read on several levels. He has had an interesting life, developing amplifiers and special effects for Kiss and Pink Floyd in the past, moving on to the toy industry then eventually starting his own business restoring fine European automobliles. His childhood was harrowing, growing up with a mother with severe mental health issues and a father who became an alcoholic. His younger brother has also written his memoirs of these times in the rather better known Running With Scissors, which I am keen to read now.
Obviously I find John’s views and ideas about aspergers absorbing. I agree so much with what he says about why some kids with asd become very badly behaved or even violent – the way other people treat them leads to a lot of frustration building up. As a child he played some really bizarre tricks on people – incredibly well thought out and clever but quite disturbing too. He hated school, never fitted in and left at 15. It’s at this part of the book that we begin to see him shine. He channels his own talents and expertise into finding work and a life for himself. Never boastful, it seems as if he doesn’t realise just quite how well he has done. It’s rare and special when someone achieves work that they love and makes a good living that way. Thinking of various aspies I’ve known/know, I wonder if they are actually better at managing this than the rest? The ability to think your own way and not take on peer group ideas is strong… hmm… just my own thoughts there.
I loved the latter section of the book where John talks about his relationships in a beautifully logical, slightly bemused way. His love for his son is wonderful and I found it most humerous how he talks about this and everyone he loves. So a fab book all round, much aspergian wisdom dispensed within 😀 The author’s site is also very good.
2-3 teaspoons of original bisto (or any vegan gravy) and water for mixing
a cupful of millet boiled with a cauliflower and then mashed with a little seasalt
or a cupful of millet boiled with 3 or 4 chopped, peeled parsnips and mashed
or mashed potatoes prepared with soya milk and marg. (slightly less healthy)
sweet potato mash is also good!
Place the aduki beans in a pan and cover well with water. bring to the boil and then turn down to a simmer until softened (varies – can be half an hour or a bit more). Drain and then add the vegetables, cover with water again and bring to boil and then simmer for about 10-15 minutes. Add your bisto or other gravy mix plus any salt desired, and place in an oven proof dish. Top with mash of choice and then into the oven to brown up a little (200C/400F for about 20-30 minutes or longer of heating up from cold later). Fantastic served with slightly boiled spring greens or dark cabbage.
Cranberry, Orange and Ginger Sauce
3/4 cup/150g/5oz sugar
1/2 cup/150ml/quarter pint of orange juice
zest of 1 lemon
1 teaspoon of fresh grated ginger (or half a teaspoon of dried ginger)
2 cups of fresh cranberries
pinch of salt
Place the cranberries, orange juice and ginger in a pan and simmer for about 10 minutes. Give the berries a mash and add the sugar, zest and salt. Cook gently until all the sugar is completely dissolved. The sauce will thicken up as it cools slightly. Nice served hot or warm with nut roast or mushroom puff and parcel (on Yule page).